But should widowers and widows dating divorcees have to worry about their relationship? And if divorced, should they only date other divorcees?
What’s the combination that will give you the best chance for true companionship?
At Stitch, many of our members are either widowed or divorced, which brings new challenges to finding a partner later in life.
It’s an unchosen label that both connects them to others that have experienced the same trauma, but also makes them feel as if a world made for couples has thrown them aside.
Dating a man who is grieving the loss of his wife or who has not moved past his late wife is no easy task.
Being with someone whose first wife has died – a wife he loved very much – has the potential for a difficult subsequent relationship: a past love that can never be matched (not that it should be a competition), a woman who doesn’t grow old, rosy-hued memories that will only ever gain lustre, worries about comparisons that can’t be checked face to face.
As a result, the question has been asked: Should you be dating a widower as a divorcee, and visa-versa?
For one member who has recently come out of a relationship (we’ll call him “Howard” since he did not want his name to be shared), said that it’s not something that he would be willing to do again.
His relationship status on the dating website was “widower” and his age 39.
I wasn’t sure that was a combination I wanted to take on, but my sister, who had my login details so she could snoop around on my behalf, thought that the fact that Tim had favourited my profile and he looked nice was enough to “give him a try”.