Some people are born with personalities which make them intimidating no matter what they do or say while others are milder in spirit and temperament.
For these people being intimidating as a result of a situation in which it is called for can be very difficult.
Being told “You’re too intimidating” is incredibly aggravating to women.
She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.
She’s well educated, with a rapier wit and a willingness to use it. And yet, Friday still remains the most lonely night of the week when she sees all of the happy, laughing couples making plans, having romantic dinners and enjoying the sex while she’s at home with Fringe on the DVR and a bottle of Malbec breathing in the kitchen. Well, whenever she’s interested in a guy – a guy who’s worth her time, because what’s the point of having standards if she’s not going to stick to ‘em?
She’s done it all; dating sites, meeting guys at cons, the comic store, chatting up friends from class and at work.
The good news is that there are some self help methods in which a meek person can learn to use intimidation when the need arises.
The idea is not to learn how to rule with an iron fist or to be a slave driver but to become someone who possesses an air of self confidence that says "I am in control of this situation." Become a Mystery Have you ever met someone who was hard to read or gauge in terms of how he/she was feeling or what he/she was thinking at the moment? If you want to come across as a bit intimidating the first thing you need to learn is not to wear your emotions and thoughts on your sleeve.