Once upon a day I used to be pretty smart, and believe me, I had a lock on clueless. -- and then continue doing even more of what you were doing before.Dating is at best another extracurricular, number six or number seven down the list, somewhere between Model UN and intramural badminton.They have a harder time opening up because that analytical brain never stops reflecting back on past situations where they opened up to someone, and ultimately got hurt in the process.For this reason, other people assume the person is cold or distant, two characteristics no one wants in a partner. The more you understand love and your role in it, the harder it is for you to find romance. In order to fall in love, you need to feel that you love. It becomes more complex, more intricate and MUCH more delicate. The more intelligent we become, the less there is to wonder.I've been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided (which sounds so much better than "socially awkward," don't you think? All they need is a little tune up, or a little dating textbook like The Tao of Dating for Women or The Tao of Dating for Men, to get them going -- plus a little practice.Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.
Another side-effect of relying on experience when it comes to love is that intelligent people tend to be way more guarded.
From my observations, the following dating challenges seem to be common to most smart people. So whether you went (or should have gone) to the likes of Harvard, Yale, Princeton, MIT, Stanford, Columbia, Cornell, Swarthmore, Amherst, Dartmouth, Brown, Oxford, Cambridge, Berkeley, Penn, Caltech, Duke, read on: 1. Time spent studying, doing homework, and practicing the violin is time not spent doing other things -- like chasing boys or girls, which turns out is fairly instrumental in making you a well-rounded human.
In fact, the smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you're going to have in your dating life. Smart people spent more time on achievements than on relationships when growing up. And smart families are usually achievement-oriented. The upshot of all that achievement is that you get into a top college -- congratulations!
Alas, being single myself, I wondered to myself, “does being smart make it harder to find love? I’m not saying that if you’re in love that you are stupid. Apply that mentality to a relationship and you get situations where smarter people are quicker to duck out of a relationship at the first sign of trouble.
If experience is the best teacher, then the smartest people will rely on experience to guide them.