Being a player is a good thing in the world of male egos and machismo, and it follows that not being able to attract many women and not having much sex makes you uncool.This is a big part of the male psyche and it causes many problems contributing to men's cheating, to mid life crises and to teenage angst. We wanted to know if he was as good in bed as the reputation that long preceded him suggested. Not only did he know it, he was looking for us, and he wanted us not for a relationship, mind you. She works as an analyst for a major government contracting firm. He’s the misogynistic, arrogant jerk you hate more than taxes, but, secretly, you’d bed him faster than your granny could yell “Bingo! Let’s face it: We’ve all wanted him at one time or another.You might want to say something like, "Texting can be so distracting — I'd really prefer if you e-mailed me or called me to make plans." Or else say, "Look, considering I don't know you very well, I'd prefer to make plans in advance. If a girl is to sleep with lots of guys she's called easy, maybe a slut, but certainly not revered and thought more highly of as a result.I would like to thank Simon for the inspiration to write this post and I dedicate it to you, you are truly a player at heart.
Do not confuse a player with people who simply enjoy casual sex, players are called players for a reason, it’s all a game to them.Susan Walsh writes the blog Hooking Up Smart, which I came across when she mentioned one of my columns in a post of hers. As Susan points out, players will often send a lot of basically meaningless "sweet" texts, along the lines of, "How was your day? Whatever you do, if you agree to a last-minute plan, also agree to go home with him! While we're on the topic of cellular communication, I will add: 3. It's different from the feeling of excitement and enthusiasm two people will feel when there's mutual attraction mutual respect. Players will not respond well if you voice hesitations about having sex.In it, she made a number of smart points about players — and I'm summarizing the good stuff for you here. " and "Hey, just thought I'd say I'm thinking about you" and "Sleep tight." While this kind of thing is fine once you've established true intimacy with someone, if a dude is pulling this kind of BS before you've had four or five dates , chances are pretty good he's full of shit. Players text a ton one day — and then days and days go by with nothing. They will try to talk you into it instead of being cool with your desire to wait.In the perfect world then, a man would be a 'player' for a bit, sleeping with several women and generally gaining lots of experiences, and would then feel like he had done enough to settle down with a woman of his choice once he reached a more mature age. How do you become the guy that every girl wants to go home with or at least trade numbers with?How can you have lots of fun, impress the guys and eventually find love?